Lovemaking

Making love is a gateway to creating more love. It is simple enough. It makes sense. So how come our lovemaking is stuck, at best, at an equal exchange of your-turn, my-turn pleasure giving and receiving? 

Maybe you are an expert in knowing exactly what your body needs to be optimally pleasured or how to give your partner just the thing that makes them squirm. You might be having a ton of fun and say how great your lovemaking is. Or maybe you are striving to be met by your partner and to get that they are actually there with you when you have sex. And when it is over, you ask, why do I feel so alone? Or coming up with ideas on what to try next time. 

However it goes for you, when the sex is over, what happens to your love? Does it spill over into your daily life? Do you hold love at the center of your conversations, decision-making, and offers for intimacy? Do you see your partner as your love all day long? Or do the slight irritations pile up, you crave your precious alone time so you do not explode, or you have to get to work and do not have time to really connect more, and the days go on the same as before you had sex? 

There is so much more possible. Lovemaking is the tender flame ready to grow more and more love. Lovemaking is your partner unfolding into a more radiant and alive being. So much more love is available when your attention and intention are the currency, not a getting-what-you-want. 

I am an explorer of love and intimacy and help lovers come together to create more love and intimacy in their relating. So the lovemaking is about just that, making more love.